Kids Need a Boost, Too

For years, I have written about kids needing to feel important and valuable. I want my children to know from the get-go that no matter what, they are here for a reason and I love them unconditionally. Now that they are teens, oops excuse me, one just turned twenty.

Give me a moment while I grab something to hold me up.
Breathe in.
Breathe out.

Okay, I am back. Nonetheless, their confidence is still very important to me, as well as that of my sweet nephew and niece. There are lots of things that can help on the front to boost their confidence. So, let’s look at some of the best ways to improve your child’s confidence as early as possible.

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It is my Universe, after all.

Even older they need confidence

Encourage Their Skills

This is perhaps the most important thing we can do to help our child’s confidence develop. The more faith that we show in that unique skill set, the one that helps shape who they are, the more they are going to have faith in the same, and this is going to mean that they are much more likely to feel naturally confident in their life. Anything we can do to encourage their skills, therefore, is definitely going to be worthwhile.

It’s more simple to do this than you may think. Look for what they are naturally good at or seem to truly enjoy, and then encourage them to do it more. Consider helping them join a club, team, or whatever else you think might be appropriate. I am not a sports person, but I sat next to a soccer field. I have also shuttled to robot, chess, and coding clubs, as well as cheerleading, basketball, and ballet. The fact that none of these stuck is not the point. They brought happiness and tears, but mostly growth. And the kids always knew I supported them.

Make Learning Fun

Of course, their education is another really important part of making sure that they are naturally confident. We have all heard the best way to do this is to make learning fun. But how do we make learning fun? It will obviously depend on the age of the child. For the little ones, it might be using worksheets like minecraft color by number - this was a win with mine when they were younger. For older kids, getting them interested in a specific point of interest tends to help.

Whatever you do, making learning fun boost that confidence, and helps ensure they are getting as much out of their education as possible.

Learning can be fun, a lot of fun!

Choose Your Words Carefully

How we speak to our children is really fundamental in their self-development over time. This is something we have to keep front of mind because it’s surprising at the amount of things we say that a child is going to remember.

This comes down to being careful about what we’re saying when we are frustrated or tired and so on. Let’s be honest, that can be hard to do some of the time, much less all the time. I know I can struggle with this on the regular. I do know that the more consciousness we bring, the better. These are the opportunities we have to build them up in the way we hope.

Encourage Risk-Taking

One of the main ways to build confidence is by taking risks, and here’s the kicker… failing, as well as succeeding. It’s actually by failing that we find we can survive those experiences, and it’s that which gives you confidence. This is the hard part for parents - watching and yes, actually letting our kids fail, because the more they do that, the sooner they learn how to fail, a big step to confidence.

Of course, these should be calculated risks, we always want to have safety in mind here. But within those parameters, let’s encourage them to take risks of greater and greater proportion to help them develop their confidence over time.

Be a role model

Walk the Walk

One of the best ways to help a child become confident is show them what it looks like. In other words, you be a role model AKA “walk the walk”. We will feel better and so will our kids.

So, did I miss anything? What do you do to give your kids a boost?